Watching the Bachelor

I am just a bit curious seeing a guy dating 25 girls to find his ideal partner. Anyone joining that reality show must be ready for the fact that their intimacy will be publicized: everybody is listening to their talks, watching their acts, and judging their behaviors. 26 people get involved in a love game that brings them both joys and tears. The rose ceremony is the most heart-breaking moment when the guy presents his roses to the girls he feels close to, and those who do not receive the roses will have to leave the game. There is no way to change the rule knowing it hurts. After the rose ceremony, a whole new journey begins. They will continue dating and have fun together. He will feel closer to some girls, and have to decide to send some others home in the next rose ceremonies. The girls are jealous watching their guy being with another girl, hugging her, even kissing her, but it’s a part of the game. They may talk ill of each other, even fight with each other, but unless they leave the game, there is no way they can change that fact. The guy looks happy being with so many beautiful girls, yet inside he’s struggling. It’s hard to tell what he really thinks, and who he really feels naturally close to. He’s heart-broken having to say good bye to the girls, for they are all adorable in one way or another. Yet he is not allowed to have more than one at least in the show. And that chosen girl must be strong enough to compete with the other 24 girls, must be open-minded enough to face the fact that she is not his only date, and must be persevered enough to win him back. Guys seem to like girls who are open and have a character. Anyway, “like” and “love” are two different concepts.  In the last episode, the guy has to choose between the two finalists who he wants to propose. The guy may reject both of them, yet that case is rare, and it only happened once.  Normally he would choose one girl, would ask her to marry him, and they would leave the show hand in hand. That would make a happy ending. However, a reality show is still a show. Many seemingly perfect couple breaks up not long after that. They come back to where they start, even worse than that. Some  say they leave the game with absolutely nothing.  Perhaps their time together is not long enough for them  to develop mutual understanding, or what they experience is not true love but just an infatuation. Sad, isn’t it? Yet the Bachelor and Bachelorette continue to be on air, and people would still love watching their romance.